it is a difficult thing to be entrusted with living breathing small humans, tasked with the job of guiding them into adulthood. this morning after yet another rough dialog i find myself in a place of needing to do some work, of not having time to waste, and yet being so full of all the emotions that i can’t focus or move forward. tears cloud my vision, discouragement and despair threaten to take over. teenagers are complicated as are middle aged adult women (such as me).
i find it so easy to lose sight of the forest for the trees these days.
two weeks ago i prepared a training session for a group of women who lead school age students in bible study. the remains of this session spill from my pile of papers. but of course, i sigh as i kneel down to pick them up. providentially one of the papers catches hold of my tear-filled eye and i pay attention.
i’d given each group a piece of paper with a line down the middle and the words successful and unsuccessful at the top. the instructions were to list off things that make them feel this way in their classrooms. then i gave them a fill in the blank sheet to complete as i recited the following truths:
Looking to God’s purpose vs. a personal sense of success.
i…prefer things to go smoothly, and feel more comfortable when i’m in control.
God….often works through human weakness and failure, and invites me to yield to His control.
Being prepared and purposeful is important and necessary. It is good and nice to have a classroom run smoothly….
The struggles i face do not represent failure, but opportunity for growth…and to see God do amazing things through an unlikely vessel such as myself. it is more important that God is glorified than that i feel successful.
it is more important that God is glorified than that i feel successful.
True success is allowing God’s higher purposes to prevail.
in light of all of this…how will my inner dialog change? how will my prayers change?
i prepared that lesson, i read those words out loud two weeks ago. today it’s as if i’m seeing them for the first time. choosing to reject the mocking of myself about that and instead letting them wash over me afresh, in this moment, after this particular argument, with this particular child.
methods and mothers may fail (guilty and guilty)
children may falter and fail
God’s love never fails.
God’s higher purpose prevails.
and that right there brings me such a depth of hope and a settled calm. my inner dialog does change, and so do my prayers.
maybe you too?
to draw further in: meditating on Matthew 11:25-30, Hebrews 2-4 and what it means to make every effort to enter into the Rest/Easy Yoke of Jesus.